Most women are not stupid, naive, stupid, or any other name critics choose to call selections of men taking. For some, it really had no idea her boyfriend is bad news for them. The ever-popular question, “Why did she get a relationship with him anyway?” Keep hanging over their heads and the reasons vary depending on who you ask. Some women have heard about her boyfriend problems and stayed for love, status, money and / or power. Others may have been, not wanting to take the blame for letting the father of her children on issues they feel might be solved.
Still many women feel they can change it. While women continue to believe that the power of sex, money, advice, personal sacrifice and a host of other strategies to change a bad man will work, they will continue to submit to mental and physical abuse. These strategies simply will not work for some men. There comes a time when women have to lower their knees if she is praying to God or pleading your partner to change. She will have to stand wearing his pride in the hand and walk through the door “to end the relationship now.”
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The following recommendations are written for women who have not yet made a commitment or a baby with a “bad boy”. She may be struggling with whether she is willing to settle with him, away from him or have him as a friend. Although the best advice is not to offer him or carry his burdens and just leave him alone, there will be women who remain. If these women choose to stay, are committed to a hard life of many sleepless nights, aches and pains sometimes mental and / or physical and it is very likely that past negative behaviors to their future children and their children.
There are two types of “players” out there: The former player who is now looking to settle down and the perennial player who has no intention of settling down. Ever. The former is not necessarily a “bad guy.” He’s sown his oats and is tired of the game. He’s looking for stability and a woman he can relax with. Here’s the rub: If you are aware of his past, it can be very difficult to distinguish between the two. I have a theory you might find useful when confronted with a “player guy.” I believe that the player who will eventually be a decent partner truly loves women. And that guy who will always be a cheating, [Reasons Why Men Cheat in a Relationship] manipulating sack o’ shit? He secretly despises them. Don’t pay too much attention to what he says. The “bad guy” will lie without hesitation. He’ll tell you what you want to hear – that he’s tired of being single, that he wants a relationship. This, my dear, is utter B.S., so don’t get sucked in. Instead, look at his actions. Does he make you feel insecure or bad about yourself when you’re around him? Does he constantly check out other women and/or comment on them in your presence? Does he do things that degrade you such as talking to you as if you’re a little girl or feeding you directly off his fork? If so, RUN. This guy is bad news. The reformed player is a different story. If you meet one of those, more than likely he won’t even mention his “past.” Mostly because he doesn’t want to scare you off.
This guy is clinging to his glory days when life was less complicated and responsibility was minimal. He’s obsessed with Guitar Hero, frequently attends keg parties and considers pizza one of the major food groups.As a gateway back to youth, the Man-Child is fun for a date or two, but the problem is that he’s not going anywhere and you’ve already got children, This adolescent-adult has problems holding onto jobs and is more interested in living the life of a fraternity brother than making a serious commitment. Women are inclined to ditch The Man-Child until he grows up a little bit and learns to live life in the real world.
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A guy whose friends are all single can be risky. This means that his buddies will always get mad at him for hanging out with just you. They will resent you for taking him away from them, even if it’s once or twice a week. It also could mean that your guy wants to stay single, too. Since none of his friends are encouraging him to commit, he is less likely to do so. Friends can be a huge influence on a guy, so always be aware of what his friends are like. Who he’s friends with can be very telling of what kind of guy he is, too.
Mommas boys usually belong to their mommas and their sisters and their aunties etc. They are always on call for the female members of their family and I don’t mean emergencies !, I cant tell you how tiring it is for your man to have to leave you in the middle of just chilling, to go unstop his mommas toilet or unclog her sink !, you and I both know, that is just an excuse to get them to their house to show us who has control !.
Well ladies, you cant win that my momma needs me argument, and don’t put it past momma to not to give him good alibis, when he wants to get out of the house. Careful though they will choose there momma 9 times out of 10 over you, after all they have to have somewhere to go after you kick him out!
In the beginning of the relationship, you caught him in a few white lies. He had what seemed like convincing excuses; therefore you let him get away with them. Now the lying has increased and the excuses have become minimal if not at all. Actions you may want to consider are the following: Approach him not only with what you think, but what you know; in other words have proof. Stop taking his lying lightly. Let him know that this behavior you will not accept any longer. If he chooses to continue lying, then tell him you will have to end the relationship for good. Once you have made a decision that you are leaving, begin to make efforts to not be contacted by him (change your cell phone number, block his email address, put places you hang out frequently on hold, and avoid telling mutual friends about your personal whereabouts, thoughts and feelings. You must not leave and then go back to him, he will only get better about lying to you over time.
Selfish men can be described in a variety of ways. However, regardless of how you chose to describe them it all comes back to the same meaning, it’s all about them. Every single aspect of your relationship will be dictated by his quest to fulfill his own needs. From sex to support you will always be second when it comes to his needs being taken care of. You’ll quickly discover that with this type of man you are simply there to please him and to hell with you. Some women liken relationships with these types of men as fulfilling as playing second fiddle to a mistress.
Selfish men are the types of guys whom while you work hard to put food on the table he spends the day playing video games with his friends. To top that off, when you get home he expects you to cook for him and his friends. He’s the guy who when he takes you to dinner, you pay.
A selfish man is the guy who refuses to come and see you on his day off, but always has time to go hang out with his boys. He’s also the guy who lives by the mantra that he can do as he please in the relationship, however he criticizes you for what you do. [10 Biggest Secrets to a Happy Married Life]
The selfish man is the guy who will not open your car door, help you carry groceries, never assist you with chores, he spends his money on what he likes but makes you explain what you purchased with yours. The list goes on and on, so I know you get my point.
He invites a woman to dinner and then subtly suggests they go Dutch. He never splurges to buy her flowers and he always opts for the cheapest wine. He makes her feel like they’re on a tight budget from the very first date. [Read: How to Get Out of a Bad Date Nicely]
Why he is so unappealing: Your first few dates should always be carefree; the words “saving” and “budget” shouldn’t come up. If she spends the first date picturing a lifetime of penny-pinching with you, you’re out of luck.
What to do if you’re that guy: Loosen up the purse strings a little when you’re courting a woman. You don’t need to spend a fortune to make a good impression, but you do need to make her feel like she’s special. Flowers are a nice touch once in a while.
Your Daughter’s Ex!
Want to make your daughter hate you forever? Hook up with one of her exes. As a cougar (and mom), crossing this line is a big no-no. This type of man is the one you want to avoid because your home will suffer as a consequence. Also, anyone who dates the mom of his ex-girlfriend truly has no boundaries – and not in a good way.
Sports Crazy Guy
I realize that ALL men fall into this category after several months of knowing you, but they will occasionally submit their whipped butts to taking you out or holding your purse as you shop, just to stop your fussing. But the sport fanatic won’t care that the house is falling apart, that the baby is crying or that you haven’t been out of the house in 4 months. All he’ll want is a beer, a TV and “some peace”. They are hard to tell apart from the normal healthy male but look out for the signs of obsession, or you’ll be stuck watching every lame game the sports channel has to offer and feeding his burping buddies as your friends go out to dinner and to see the hottest new movie every weekend
Consider the fact that you will more than likely be on the receiving end of the disrespect one day. Do you still want to date him? Before I met my current boyfriend, I dated a few guys. The last guy was a disrespectful jerk. I should have known better than to pursue him after I saw how he treated another girl we worked with.He felt he could talk down to her because he was higher up in the chain of command. Not too long after we started dating he made comments about “women knowing their place” and other things not suitable to share. I kicked him straight to the curb!