Dating is always such a delicate dance that you don’t want to make the wrong move, and God forbid as you take the wrong step, it causes you to fall. Dating is a hormonal charged experience that involves a lot of guessing, hoping and wondering if and how much the other person likes you. While women can spend hours deciphering the different hidden meanings a one-sentence text message has, the truth is, there is not much science in figuring out if the apple of your eye is in to you. Here are eight surest signs that put your anxieties to rest. [Read: Signs of a Successful Great First Date].
He Calls You Off and On
If your guy’s really into you, he does not wait five days after a date to call you. Instead, he calls you whenever he feels like doing it, even if it’s just to say hi and see how your day is going. If you have been dating a lot of players recently, this new, emotionally available behavior may seem startling. Don’t criticize or judge it. Instead, enjoy it!
He Looks at You
You catch him looking at you. Watching you from across the room. Seeing the way you brush your hair from your forehead. He keeps his eyes on you. A guy who digs you wants to watch what you do, all the time.
He Often Come Across You
If a guy frequently puts himself in your way, you can be fairly certain that he likes you. For instance at a party if he comes over to join a group near you even though he does not know them well or at a restaurant he passes your table while heading for the restrooms even though they are on the other side, it could mean that he is looking for a chance to introduce himself to you. This is also true of a guy whom you are acquainted with – this person may be taking a detour to the office water station just to pass by your desk or cubicle or he may regularly take the subway so that he can join you in the commute. All these are signs that he likes you and would be interested in getting to know you better. On the other hand a guy who is indifferent to you will hardly go out of his way to be around you and in fact someone who does not like you will ensure that you don’t cross his paths.
Asking for More Dates
Sometimes people get so excited during a first date, that they play cards by suggesting other things we should do together. A common time to suggest another date is at the end of the date, though some guys just say this to be friendly. But it can’t be bad if the guy is enthusiastic enough to suggest a second date. He just has to make good on his word. [Read: 10 Type of Guys You Must Avoid Dating]
He Treats You Good
An infallible test of a guy’s feelings is to see how he behaves with you in comparison to other people. If a guy who normally keeps himself goes out of his way to chat you up or bring you coffee at the workplace, it is probably because he likes you very much. Even a guy who is sociable and easy-going in his dealings with all, will display a change in behavior if he has a crush on you. While such a guy may be hearty and socially aggressive with the others, but with you he may exhibit a softening of the voice and a keener sensitivity to your gestures and visual clues. Also a guy who likes you will wish to know about your work, your hobbies and more about your life in general whereas finding out the same things about others may seem to him a waste of time. More importantly he will try to find common areas of interest like a preference for a particular kind of music or sport or travel; he will ask you about your favorite band or holiday destination and when anything matches, his pleasure will be all too evident. All these are sure signs that he likes you and is reaching out to you.
It may sound old-fashioned, but the boy who really likes you will make the effort to show you how a gentleman should treat a lady. He’ll pick you up, take you out, and at date’s end walk you to the door. He won’t assume that you’ll invite him in, but will be stoked to be in that position. If you don’t invite him in — and on the first date, you probably shouldn’t — he’ll walk to your door and give you a sweet, gentle goodnight kiss. At this point, it’ll be obvious, not only does he respect you but he also likes you.
His Friends Know You
Chances are, you have dated the kind of guy who showers you with attention and gifts and also chases you incessantly, but never introduces you to the other people in his life. While this behavior may be confusing, the truth is that when a guy is really into you, he includes you in his entire life. That means his friends know about you. And not just how hot or sexy you are, but how interesting, funny, and amazing you are. As time goes on, he not only tells his friends about you, but he introduces you to them and makes you a part of his inner circle. Show your appreciation by making an effort to get to know his friends.
Takes Interest in your Affairs
A surefire way to know if your man sees a future with you is if he takes interest in your interests. Even if it’s something that does not appeal to him, like Pilates, painting, or your Portuguese language lessons (for instance ), he’ll encourage you to pursue your interests and ask you about them. Be sure to return the favor and engage him about his own interests. So there you have it – the surefire sign that the guy you’re dating is really into you. Once you educate yourself on the signals that matter, you’ll be better equipped to see and sift through the superficial players in your environment and then identify the genuine gems worth dating.
Tries to be Impressive
Does this guy always try to help you out, be it walking a few blocks with you in search of your lost pet cat or shopping for a new dress? Friends may be willing to help, but not without a bit of pestering. If a guy promptly jumps out of his seat to help you fix a problem, he may indeed like spending time with you. If a friend goes out of his way to help you out, he may be a really nice guy or just a guy who’s in love with you. Let’s put this to the test. One weekend, call him up and tell him you plan to go shopping all day. And sneakily mention that you’re going alone. Guys hate shopping, especially with girls who want to shop all day.
When you slip the tiny detail that you’re shopping all alone, does he suddenly seem excited and interested to tag along? That’s a sign that this guy likes you!
If a guy friend constantly talks about you or remembers you now and then, and tells you about it, he’s obviously trying to let you know that he has a special place for you in his heart. If it’s a one off confession, perhaps it’s no big deal. But if you find your friend remembering you or thinking of you often, it’s a sign that he likes you and is trying to get your attention.